Iki ni ikibazo abantu benshi bibazaho, ariko reka turebere hamwe zimwe mu mpamvu zibitera
Mu buzima busanzwe kugira ngo umugabo ashake gutera akabariro, umubiri we ugomba kuba wakoze umusemburo witwa testosterone uhagije. Ku bagabo uyu musemburo ukorwa cyane mu ijoro igihe baba basinziriye. Iyo yicuye mu gitondo, ikigero cy’uwo musemburo kiba cyazamutse ku kigero cya 25 kugeza kuri 50%.
Naho umugore we umubiri we ni joro ukora uwo musemburo, ariko ugacibwa intege n’indi misemburo ya Progesterone na oesterogene bifasha mu mikurire y’imyanya myibarukiro.
Kubera ubwinshi bw’uwo musemburo wa testosterone, niyo mpamvu usanga abagabo bakunze gusohora ni joro, bikaba nibura nka gatatu mu cyumweru, nkuko bitangazwa na Ashley Grossman, umuganga mu bitaro bya St Bartholomew’s Hospital mu Bwongereza.
Ubushakashatsi bwavuye mu kinyamakuru American Medical Association buvuga ko uburyo umugabo yasinziriyemo nabyo byongera ikigero cya testosterone, iyo yasinziriye neza nibura amasaha atanu, byongera uwo musemburo ku kigero cya 15%.
Igihe umusemburo utera ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina wiyongereye ku bagabo, ku bagore ho uba wagabanutse. Niyo mpamvu ngo abagabo bibasaba ingufu nyinshi kugira ngo abagore bagire ubushake mu gitondo, nk’uko byemezwa na Gabrielle Downey, inzobere mu by’indwara z’imyanya myibarukiro y’abagore ku bitaro bya West Birmingham Hospitals NHS Trust.
Uko amasaha agenda akura, ubushake ku bitsina byombi buragabanuka, ariko byagera ku mugoroba umusemburo wa testosterone ukiyongera ku bagore mu gihe abagabo bo uba wagabanutse bikabije. Icyakora ngo bashobora kuzamura urugero rw’uwo musemburo mu gihe bakoze siporo bose, kuko ngo nyuma ya siporo umusemburo uzamuka hagati ya 20 na 50%.
Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe na Nara University yo mu Buyapani bwerekanye ko umuziki ku bagore wongera ubushake bwo gukora imibonano, cyane cyane ngo Jazz, Pop n’urutonde rw’indirimbo basanzwe bakunda. Ibi ngo bituma baruhuka mu mutwe bakanishima, wa musemburo nawo ukazamuka. Gusa ngo siko bigenda ku bagabo kuko usanga igihe bumva indirimbo baba bihagarayeho(calm).
Ibyo bigahura n’uko igihe kinini abantu babona umwanya wo kureba cyangwa kumva indirimbo ari ku mugoroba akazi karangiye.
N’ubwo ikigero cya testosterone ku bagore kiyongera mu masaha y’umugoroba, ngo bishobora kubangamirwa no kutigirira ikizere, nko kuba abyibushye cyane, kuba yiyumva ko atari mwiza n’ibindi. Ibyo bikaba bishobora gutuma umusemburo udakorwa uko bikwiye.
N’ubwo umugabo aba adashaka cyane gukora imibonano ni joro, ngo ni byiza kugerageza kuyikora kuko ituma asinzira neza. Impamvu ni uko iyo asohoye, umubiri we uhita ukora umusemburo witwa Oxytocine, uwo musemburo ukaba ubundi ugenewe gutuma imwe mu myanya ndangagitsina ye yikanya(contraction). Ariko uwo musemburo ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko utera n’ibitotsi, ku bantu baryamye bamaze gukora imibonano.
Uyu musemburo kandi ngo utuma umugore n’umugabo begerana cyane iyo bari gutera akabariro. Oxytocin kandi ituma habaho kubabarirana hagati y’abashakanye, nk’uko byavuye mu bushakashatsi bwakorewe mu Busuwisi.
Ngibyo bimwe mu bituma abagabo bakunda gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina mu gitondo, abagore bo bakayikunda ku mugoroba.
UWINEZA Adeline
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