Mu buzima busanzwe, umugore akenera umugabo n’umugabo nawe agakenera umugore. ibi biri mu bituma kenshi umwe ahaguruka iwabo agasanga mu genzi we bagashinga urugo rwabo.
Ariko n’ubwo bimeze gutyo, kugira ngo buri wese yumve yishimiye mu genzi we, kandi anejerejwe n’umubano wabo hari ibintu umugabo akwiriye gukorera umugore mu gihe bari gutera akabariro, muri byo tugiye kuvuga nibura 5 muri byo.
Dore ibyo bintu bitanu wakoresha:
Uburyo bwa Mbere busaba ko umugore aryame hasi agaramye maze umugabo nawe amupfukame hagati y’amaguru nuko umugore afate amaguru ye ayashyire ku matako y’umuhungu,umugore narangiza aze noneho akwinjiremo neza,ubu buryo buzatuma umugore aryoherwa ndetse n’umugabo yumve ko afite umugore neza nawe bimutere ku ryoherwa.
Ndetse bizongera bifashe n’igitsina cy’umugabo kwinjira neza cyose mu gitsina cy’umugore ku buryo kizaba kisanzuye mu gukora ibyo umugabo ashaka mu gitsina cy’umugore.
Uburyo bwa Kabiri bwo busaba ko umugore aryama ku buriri yubitse inda ariko akibuka kuzamura ikibuno ho gatoya ndetse anatandaraze ho gato,ubwo umugabo nawe icyo azakora azapfukama maze yinjize igitsina cye mu cy’umugore bitamugoye.
Ubu buryo buzatuma umugore aryoherwa ndetse atanavunika kuko imibiri iba yegeranye cyane,ubu buryo kandi waba ufite n’igitsina gito bugeregeza gutuma ushimisha umugore wawe.
Uburyo bwa gatatu bwo noneho busaba ko umugore yunama ku gitanda,ubwo n’ukuvuga ngo agashinga amavi ku gitanda inkokora akaba arizo afatisha hasi umutwe nawo akawushyira hasi maze ikibuno kikajya inyuma,icyo gihe n’igitsina cy’umugore kizaba cyaje inyuma.
Ubwo umugabo nawe icyo azakora nta kindi ni uguturuka inyuma maze agasa nusutarara maze akinjizamo igitsina cye mu cy’umugore,ubu buryo buzafasha umugabo kwinjiza igitsina cye mu cy’umugore uko abyifuza bimufashe no kuruhura umutwe we yewe n’umugore azaryoherwa byiza kuko uzaba uri gukora mu mpande zose z’igitsina.
Uburyo bwa kane bwo n’ubwo budakundwa gukorwa n’abantu ariko ni bwiza,ubu buryo bwo busaba ko umugore n’umugabo bahagarara maze umugore akazamura akaguru ke akagashyira ku kibuno cy’umugabo ubwo umugabo nawe agahita agafata maze akagatanyura.
Umugabo nawe icyo agoma gukora nta kindi ni uguhita yinjira hagati y’ibibero by’umugore ubundi agahita ashyira igitsina cye aho cyabugenewe,ubu buryo buzabafasha mwembi gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina murebana amaso ku maso maze mubone n’uburyo musangira uburyohe yewe n’umugabo bizamufasha ku kwinjira mu mugore neza umubiri ku mubiri.
Uburyo bwa gatanu bwo ni bwiza cyane,busaba ko umugabo aryama agaramye maze umugore nawe akaza akamupfukama hejuru maze akinjiza igitsina cy’umugabo mu cye,ubwo umugabo maze bagatangira akazi.
Umugabo agomba kuzajya akoresha igice cye cyo hasi ndetse n’umugore azamuka buri uko umugabo amuzamuye nawe akiyoroshya,ndetse byagera na hagati umugabo akarekera noneho ibintu byose umugore akaba ariwe ubyikorera,ndetse umugore akazajya anyuzamo akanyonga ikibuno kugira ngo igitsina cy’umugabo gikore mu mpande zose z’igitsina cy’umugore.
Ngibyo bimwe mubyo umugabo yakoresha agashimisha umugore we mu gihe bari gutera akabariro.
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